Imaginary Scenarios And Why

Oh, here we are again, imagining the classic "he drops by because he was in the area or something equally random" - situation, which would of course be great, and it's always such a shame when another day goes by and he didn't appear on your doorstep - but it is really a stupid thing to get fed up with since it would have to be a very random situation indeed for that to actually happen, so why get worked up about it?
Just keep reminding yourself of this as I continue now. A lot.

The problem is, when you find someone simply interesting - and by that, I don't mean the "interesting" in inverted commas, in that certain tone of voice, hell, I mean sincerely wanting to get to know a person - usually, nothing ever happens to follow up that decision, so you get no chance to find out if you'd, just possibly, find them more than interesting: Your thoughts get ahead of you and obsessively recreate the little memory that you have of that person you once found interesting until you've turned them upside down, worn them out, the picture in your head is faded and frayed at the sides and you're so, so lovesick without ever having actually fallen in love with them.

That's usually the point where I call for someone to throw a brick at my head to clear it up.

The question here is: Why do we even do that?

I guess, at first, we'd like to see that interesting person again, because, duh, people tend to enjoy each others company. So, naturally, in keen anticipation, you simply wait for a call. To entertain yourself while waiting, you already think of said call, how it will go, how you'll say hello, if he'd rather go to dinner or see a movie with you, whatever, and BOOM, you're having a conversation in your head and by that, a classic imaginary scenario.
The days pass by and you've had time to prep for every single version of a call-yet there hasn't been one, but you're sure there will be (how else are you going to schedule a date to spend time together?) and you decide that it won't hurt to get in the mood for an outing. It could be at the fun fair. It could be at a restaurant. You could wear that new dress. Which shoes would suit that? Oh, and since it's just in your head, why not plan his outfit too?
See? You think you are just "thinking about it" until it really happens, because you are so convinced that it is going to happen, that it would all make sense. But, in reality, he hasn't even called, and since he hasn't done that in a long time - such a long time that you naturally got bored with the call-fantasy and moved on to outer space - honey, chances that he ever will are drastically decreasing, I'm sorry to say. However, when you finally realize that yourself, you'll be way more disappointed than you would have been if you'd never thought about him and what could, probably, maybe, possibly, happen between the two of you, because you guys already got a long and passionate history - at least in your head. But it feels at least a little as if it really happened, since you've lived through it, and now you're reaaally frustrated about multiple things:

All those detailed, movie-worthy scenarios - first date, kiss, fight, possibly child - you've gotten honestly excited about are gone with a poof and you might have even bought new shoes you won't get to wear now;

You seem to only have a love life in your fantasy, which is weird enough on its own;

You probably thought of him a lot more than he did in reverse (I mean, he might have the same issue as you do, but who knows for sure? WHO DOES?) and that's just humiliating;

You really, really wanted him to call you.

So, lovelies, in order to stay sane, hold on to the fact that people do get together and coincidences do happen and some boys do call and those are usually the ones that matter.
Keep reminding yourself. A lot.

Love,

Rosy Smith

Ps: And try not to listen to He is We in that kinda mood, it makes you want things.