Ghosting or "He better be dead"....

....Did you know there were real magazine articles about that phenomenom? Poor copy editors had to spend time on trying to figure out possible motives for a habit that is, honestly, only adequatly described as wretched, impolite, arrogant, unnecessary crap. If you have a problem, just freaking say so instead of not saying anything at all, because truthfully, that still leaves your intentions open to interpretation and you could have it so much easier than that. A downright rejected woman might set your car on fire, but she'll only do it once and vanish out of your life afterwards (if only out of fear of charges). A ghosted woman, however, will have enough time on her hands and anger slowly boiling up while she's wondering if you'll ever get in touch that she might have become an expert on how to get rid of a body without traces by the point she's done with waiting.

I guess some guys have figured out the travesty of their actions by now and tried to redeem themselves, but sadly, they only make things worse by engaging in some other modern-day excuse for cowarding, called "breadcrumbing". Just think about having to explain that kind of vocab to your daughter one day. It is when boys ghost you for only a little while, and then, just when you're starting to realize how stupid they are, slide right back into your life with a sweet message turning everything upside down and, in your mind, explaining perfectly well why he ignored you before. That circle goes around quite a couple times, pushing you back and forth between bliss and bitterness and once you finally make the jump out, leaves you with nothing to really accuse him of.

Except the fact that he could have had the pure decency to be a man and just spit out the fact that he doesn't really want to be with you after all, and that that should have happened before you started to waste time and feelings on someone who doesn't deserve you.

Feel free to copy and paste this to your ghosts and breadcrumbers.

Love,

Rosy Smith